I have been interested in the concept of Androgyny for many years. Androgyny is a term that infers that masculine and feminine tendencies are m/l balanced in a living being, rather than one of them being more predominate. I have long been aware that my nature did not match up very well with my gender ( I am male), and I have explored and wondered about the whys and wherefores of how this could be, and what it might mean. While poking around on the internet, I came across an Androgyny “test” that would supposedly inform me as to where I fit on the androgyny scale, and I took it. While the result was not so surprising (I scored way more feminine that masculine or androgynous), it was more interesting (as well as a relief) to me when I looked at how the test was set up, and the parameters that were used.
Some of the MASCULINE traits were:
- Has leadership abilities
- Self reliant
- Strong personality
- Willing to take risks
Some of the FEMININE traits were:
- Loves children
- Sensitive to others
The idea was that you ranked yourself to each of the qualities above, then added up your score which indicated you were either more masculine or feminine, or somewhat balanced (Androgynous). While looking at the traits, it seemed pretty obvious to me that the masculine traits were related more to EGO function (which tends to be more self centered) and the feminine traits were more related to EMOTIONS (or “heart”) which typically are more inclusive of others.
Considering my personality and interests in Non-Duality, this make sense to me that I would score more feminine, as in non-dual thinking/living, my identity is not so much attached to a personal egocentric perspective, as it is a perspective where the center is more “out there” and includes other people, the earth, and all things. While I do have masculine traits, they are overshadowed by feminine traits. That’s just the way it is.
Stereotypically speaking, the masculine traits tend to be associated with the male gender, and the feminine traits with the female gender. Again stereotypically speaking, it is why I have thought many times my life may have been a bit easier if I had been born female, seeing as how my personality is more feminine in nature. While it may have been easier socially (and in relationships) , I don’t think it would have been better, as while having an awareness that is somewhat outside the norm has caused suffering in ways, it has also allowed me to explore paradigms where this confluence of UN-stereotypical traits makes some sense. Had I been born a male with an abundance of masculine traits, societal life may have been easier, but I imagine there is also a strong likelihood that I could have plundered the earth and other people, in much the same way that a person born female with an abundance of feminine qualities could potentially be ineffective and unprogressive. Balance is a good thing….we can make use of all of the qualities, masculine or feminine, at different times in our lives, and for me, it has been helpful to understand my tendencies, and in doing so, being able to see and understand what I needed to work on to become more healthy and effective in my life. In my case, it looked like a loosening of attachment to my personal ego, and making a greater allowance for matters of the heart. For someone else, it may look like just the opposite. We are all learning, and that is good, as I have heard it said…”Life is the school, Love is the lesson”. Don’t you think that the bottom line for most of us is that we simply want to feel good……share love with other people and the earth….feel a bit of respect, trust, and appreciation? I can’t think of anything better. Can you?